Separating when things get shaky can be a good idea. Especially if things are beginning to get a little out of hand. However, how do you make sure this separation helps to save your marriage and not destroy it further?

The answer is if it is done right a separation can help your marriage or relationship. Sometimes we all need to miss our water before the well runs dry. Yes this is a cliche but that is the way our emotions work. We often don’t realize how important someone is until we miss them. Believe me absence does make the heart grow fonder. What you once took for granted suddenly you begin to be appreciative of again.Yes, a good separation for a week or two will jar your mind as to why you got together in the first place.

I’m not suggesting that you totally neglect your mate during this time. You want them to know you are alive and well. You can always send them an email, a text message, or a short phone call just to keep in touch. You want them to understand that although you aren’t in their presence you still care and still want them. You don’t want them to feel like you have discarded them. Always remember to tell them that you care and that you love them.

Concentrate thinking about all the things you miss not being in your partner’s presence. Give deep thought about the big things, as well as, the little things that you miss. You should either write these things down or record it as a voice memo. If you write it down you should reread religously what you wrote down often. If you make a voice memo you should listen to what you recorded. Amazingly you will find that by doing this you will be drawn back to your love one with a even greater feeling of love and respect for them as a a person.

Now once you have returned home, take your love one in your arms , look them in the eyes and tell them how much you missed them. It never hurts to bring a little gift for your baby. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant just something that is meaningful to them. It could be something that brings back the memory of when you first meant. You’d be surprised how a little trinket can have so much meaning. For example a matchbook from your favorite restaurant. These are the actions that save marriages and relationships.

If you want to really save your relationship you have to remember how you felt without them. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us and we have to treat our love ones like today is our last day to share. Be sure to show how much you cherish them in your life. Take time to show them that you love them daily.

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