personal ads are for the desperate and the closet cases for the most part.

But you can find lesbians anywhere. Go to predominantly gay bars and clubs. Check out PFLAG and Gay & Lesbian Center meetings. But I mean, you can even just go to the store or mall or library or a coffee shop or where ever and just flirt with girls you see. Just strike up conversation, compliment, and smile. Maybe drop some sort of subtle hint that you’re gay, but don’t bring up ex’s. And if you have good conversation ask for a number or email address. Get lots and lots of numbers and email addresses, and right away flirt and tease when you talk to them, don’t let them think of you as just a friend. Don’t be too much of a pushover though, don’t give yourself totally away right from the start, don’t be creepy, and don’t talk about yourself too much. Just act really confident, but not full of yourself.

-shrugs- It’s what I do, and it attracts both “straight” and gay women. An awful lot of “straight” women don’t really seem to mind going out or messing around with women even though they don’t actively pursue it. I attract just as many “straight” women as gay women, it really doesn’t have much to do with how they normally identify. Most of them are at least a little bicurious and if you act confident and attractive, “straight” women will totally fall for you.