The eyes are a way to find a place in someone’s heart. It is said eyes can tell you what your tongue can’t. Some people ignore the importance of eye contact. When we look at each other and make eye contact something very personal happens. It is as if we can see inside each other and see what they are thinking. It is the opening to a conversation. Looking at strangers is a personal introduction.

Men and women need to start knowing how to look at others and then know how to interpret eye contact correctly. First of all you need to begin by looking people in the eye and get used to it. It’s no good looking oat the ground and then follows up with sly glances when they are not looking. Look at people and learn to smile at them. You may only be making new friends but who cares, get used to looking and being looked at. Being shy is not the way to a person’s heart.

You must have heard “love at first sight. For some people it’s a beautiful feeling and it happens to them who believe in love. Remember it’s never going to happen if you don’t get caught looking.

Shyness is another debilitating factor. Many of us are shy by degrees and making eye contact isn’t always easy but we should start practicing. Many are the people who had admirers but never knew it, simply because they never looked.

Another strange phenomenon is the common anxiety in people that when people look at them, they think it is an aggressive stance, not a friendly introduction. Men with low self-esteem can view women in a similar vein by thinking that if a woman is looking at them, there must be something wrong. Women can feel insecure in the same way by men making eye contact with them.

There is a physiological aspect to eye contact. On a date which is going well watch the eyes of your date carefully. If she or he is attracted to you, their eyes will dilate (get bigger) and they will hold your gaze as long as possible. But in the instant attraction scenario with a stranger across a crowded room, remember that the quick occasional glances will indicate initial interest so act upon it.

Eye contact makes you more confident. So try to get used to looking at people and make deliberate eye contact with people you like. Try it in a shop, store or anywhere where you meet strangers. Try and hold the gaze of someone with a nice smile and watch the reaction. You will be surprised. Making eye contact is fun so enjoy it.

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