Each day, more relationships fall apart…it seems like the list of things that can end them is endless, but really most of the biggest killers are fairly simple. If your relationship is in danger or has already broken apart, I’m here to help you by listing off some of the main reasons people go their separate ways. Once you know what causes a breakup, you can usually fix it!

  1. Cheating on your partner is a vicious and hurtful act that probably leads to the most broken hearts of anything ever done to cause a breakup. It destroys your partner’s trust in you, and that sort of thing never comes back all the way, even if you do manage to overcome it. If you don’t want cheating to demolish your relationship, don’t cheat.
  2. Your partner has emotions, and those emotions need support. Traditionally it’s more women who complain of their guys not being sensitive enough to their feelings, but guys aren’t stone cold rocks either. Always try to listen to your partner, and make sure that he/she knows quite well how much his/her feelings mean to you.
  3. Everybody knows that no relationship goes on for very long without the occasional fight…but it’s important to not get too fired up in these conflicts. A bad temper and refusal to calm down and listen is the absolute of all the WRONG ways to handle fights. Take things with as level a head as you can muster, and try to address real problems rather than petty squabbles and gripes. Make your fights productive, not destructive.
  4. Movies have made it seem like it’s only ever girls who get too controlling, and in fact film has made it even seem funny, but the truth is that both guys and girls can become overly demanding and controlling of their partners…and it’s no laughing matter, as anyone who’s been in that kind of relationship can tell you. If you don’t have trust, you don’t have anything…and if you keep hounding your partner about what goes on every minute of every day, you won’t have him or her either.
  5. Allowing a relationship to get boring and stale is perhaps one of the most tragic ways that one can end, as it’s pretty much just a case of so little going on that a person doesn’t really care anymore. Lack of spontanaeity and “spice” is a relationship’s enemy, although you don’t have to freak out if you aren’t doing something new every hour. Spend time together, and do things that are fun for both of you! It’s crazy to simply let a relationship “reach its expiration date.”
  6. Annoying habits in small numbers can be almost endearing, but when they start to take over it can be a serious problem. Usually just having a bad habit of biting your nails or tapping your foot won’t end a relationship, but when these things are a blatant constant and in larger numbers than just two or three, they can add a lot of stress that can make normally minor problems impact your partner a lot more. Everyone has a few bad habits, but in the interest of peacekeeping it’s a good idea to try to ease up on the things that really drive your partner crazy.

This list is by no means the end-all definition of everything that can hurt a relationship, but it covers the biggest offenders and can get you thinking in the right fashion to figure out whatever may be hurting YOUR relationship. If you’re currently going through a nasty breakup yourself, thinking about these things and others like them could clue you in as to what’s wrong with your relationship and even how to fix it and get your ex back.

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