Have you ever reached that point in your relationship when you find yourself asking the question: is this relationship meant to be? How do I know when it’s not right for me, not meant to be? Is there any such thing as the right match?

We strive to find the right match. We long for that lasting relationship that makes us feel wanted and needed, and helps us feeling fulfilled. But we also know the flipside, about the heartbreak of being in a relationship that is not rewarding and complete. That feeling we have, is it fear of intimacy, or intuitively knowing it’s not right?

For some it’s also a matter of time, and they do not want to waste there time with the wrong match. It’s not so much an either or situation, but more of a decision and knowing when we ask that question: is this meant to be?

Let’s delve in a little deeper, and look at the concept of ideology versus reality. How much of our relationship is based on reality? There are so many people in this world seeking a good relationship. They have ideas of the type of person they would be with, and the things they would do together.

Is there balance between the dream world where we create based on our wants and needs, and the real day to day reality? In a real relationship we are interacting with another person, with their own thoughts and dreams. For their own sake they must be true to their own perceptions, not live up to yours.

There is a portion of the relationship that does balance in our perceptions. Being in a good relationship is a decision and commitment we make within ourselves. Sometimes we choose to let go of that connection, for whatever reason. Sometimes the choice is made for us, when the other person releases their part of the interactivity.

The connection we have with another can be a life-long bond that is unbreakable, but it can also be delicate and breakable, with only a misspoken word or the wrong action. Coming to an understanding of your past-based desires can bring you to greater clarity in your present relationship and the person who stands before you.

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