Alright, let’s agree to disagree.  For so many years men and women tried to claim that humans are humans and men and women should be able to communicate on an equal basis.  Then the internet came along and the stakes were even higher.  Now, online dating men are trying to communicate with online dating women.  Almost seeming like the “real world” didn’t have its sufficient amount of complications, the cyber-world has now been added into the equation.

The fact is that men and women think differently and therefore they date differently.  Whether they are trying to communicate in the real or online world of dating does not matter.  Only the conversations that go astray will reveal the differences.  So why did he say that to me????  What did she signal through that message?  Now do you see where this is going?  There are no boundaries when it comes to effective communication.  Men and women are trying to find common communication grounds on many different levels.

Does Hope Exist?

In conversation with online dating men the question that comes up most often is: Can there be any common grounds of communication?  Can the online dating man learn to communicate with online dating women?  Or more significantly, whether men can use the tools of communication offered on online dating sites to communicate in a more effective and less “manly” manner.

Yes, it is possible to make male communication more in sync with that expected by women who are looking for a date or a partner.  However, in order to practice this, a person must first learn both how to communicate AND how to interpret communication.  In other words, men may have a way of expressing their emotions, but they also need to know how to interpret the responses to the emotions expressed.

Men using online dating sites are not hesitant to take advantage of the variety of communication tools available.  But the language used in their conversations with each other is way off the target when it comes to that which is needed on dating sites.  Men speak more to the point and women want to express the feelings they are experiencing as they email back a smile.  Men tend to take great efforts to hide insecurities but women on the other hand tend to take the burden of communication upon themselves .

Controlling Speaking?

Men will discuss facts and women want to talk about feelings.  This is the ever present argument on who is more “I want to be in control” (more left-side of the brain) and who is more “let’s talk about it (from the right-side of the brain).  According to scientists, men are more stuck on the left-side of the brain thinking and this shows itself in their dating scene.  That is the reason why most women react with a “Exactly what does that mean?” when reading the messages left on onine dating sites by men.

There are some rules men can follow to communicate successfully online.

• Don’t play “macho” from the start as if you are a gift to women

• Do not assume that you know why women join online dating services

• Make sure you use all the communication tools offered, including smiles, flirts, chats, message boards and emails

• Honesty is more recommended than playing games

• Pay attention to what is being said by the other person

• Ask more questions

• Be attentive to the answers to your questions

Do these suggestions all sound simple and practical to you?  They are supposed to!  Online dating men who understand the need for honest communication and realize the effect of their comments and presumptions on the processing of communication can communicate more effectively.

Online dating men are better off than their counterparts who look to meet women in the real world.  They have time to thoughtfully process information before responding to women who communicate with them .  This is one of the most important luxuries afforded to men who are using dating sites.

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