As you may or may not know, when people try to get back with their partner, they frequently fall victim to an ugly behavior known as overreaction.  First, though, I will explain what exactly constitutes overreacting and how overreaction may have been a big part of that breakup you didn’t want.

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This may be a challenge, but you should do it.  You have to reflect on specific memories you and your ex share.  These memories include the times you and your ex got into a heated discussion over stuff that doesn’t matter, or when you two didn’t understand each other, or when the conversation degenerated into silence.  Now, since you’re striving to win him back, all those fights are important to remember because they have a role to play.  The main reason for this is so that you’ll finally grasp how overreaction to a tiny problem was bad.  You will also grasp how the issues that provoked arguments weren’t worth it.

Here’s the thing: it’s not necessarily the problem, but how you reacted to it that caused the dissolution of your relationship.  Overreaction is how you let your feelings take charge and how you abandoned logic.

To demonstrate this further, here are some “if only” lines you probably said at some point.

“If only I left him alone when he was doing his best to fix the dryer…”.

“If only I let him explain, instead of toss him out after he was late…”.

“If only I didn’t lose it when he made a joke about my cooking…”.

“If only I had been understanding when I caught him talking to a girl he used to date, instead of just jumping the gun…”.

Although you can’t change the past, you can use the information you have learned to get back with him.  Cut the drama from your life, listen to him, and try to comprehend what he’s telling you.  After all, he’s just a human and will react to anything negative you might say.

Regardless of his patience, and regardless of his great treatment of you, he can’t just endure all of it.  Women who are being dramatic are very trying on the male psyche because men aren’t naturally capable of handling females when they insist on being melodramatic.

Learning how to win back your ex means comprehending fact and fiction and how they’re different.  In short, a fight is not exotic; it is a problem and an obstacle for you and your partner.

Most women really enjoy imagining their man coming after them even in the middle of an emotional hurricane.  In reality, though, men don’t see it quite this way.  They just stop what they’re doing and stay quiet, or get angry and leave.

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