He put up another personal ad! Is this cheating?

Published in December 10th, 2009

andbriantoo asked:

I met a kind po'questo through a personal ad does. We are enjoying all that we communicate and we have shown great interest in eachother. Even take a weekend trip soon to plan! So why put up a personal ad? Is according to me about his intentions to wish a relationship with? This is actually even cheat just because we are dating? Help – I must know what to do here! Thanks so much! I am not doing a report from thin air – he mentioned the word, love. " Is making plans for the future.

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Angiebaby said, in December 16th, 2009 at 11:31 am

yes ofcourse it is cheating..you should confront him.

Sax M said, in December 16th, 2009 at 9:55 pm

You better change your attitude and stop being so possessive of him. If you have not had the conversation of, “Well, we’re constantly having sex and constantly seeing each other. Do you want to be in a committed relationship?”

He is not cheating. He is trying to find the right woman for him. If you are the right one, he will spend more time with you and eventually marry you. If you are not the right one, he will spend more time with other women and he will eventually marry one of them.

It’s dating. It’s not marriage. Get over yourself. You’re not that important to him.

Mr. Mojo Risin said, in December 19th, 2009 at 12:32 pm

yeah yeah yeah yeah fuck me baby fuck me baby fuck me baby yeah

see the snake, he is long, ride the snake, too the lake

Megz said, in December 20th, 2009 at 4:49 pm

He more than likely isn’t taking what the two of you have seriously, or he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. If he is still going on the dating site then he is still looking and he may just be dragging you along for the ride cause he doesn’t want to be alone. I would try talking to him about it see what he says, it can’t hurt any! I would tell him you are looking for something more serious and that if he isn’t then maybe the two of you should go your separate ways. No matter what you do make sure he isn’t dragging you along that can be a really horrible thing to go through believe me I’ve been there one too many times.

ngiapapa said, in December 21st, 2009 at 7:04 pm

Probably he’s not satisfied with you and he’s looking for something else. He is not cheating at the moment and he might not cheat in the future if what he meets is not what he expects.
But putting another ad is not a good omen because he’s apparently looking for sex.
If you are not after the same pursuit, stop it!
Or, wait until the week-end trip and then, decide.
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Loki said, in December 23rd, 2009 at 6:58 pm

Perhaps he wants insurance in case you don’t put out on the weekend trip. It’s not cheating. It is unkind. Tell him that if the shoe were on the other foot he’d not be happy and cancel the weekend, He’s playing you and lying through his teeth.

stepfordswiss said, in December 24th, 2009 at 6:49 pm

You need to have the “are we exclusive” conversation…..if you aren’t both agreed on whether you are dating other people or not then I’d advise you get out straight away…..but if he thinks that you are both still seeing other people you can’t really have a go at the guy…..you need to talk about this – to each other…and the sooner the better!

stewilliamsx2 said, in December 24th, 2009 at 7:06 pm

sounds like he doesn`t see you as a long term thing because if he was content with you he wouldn`t be looking still unless he is a real jerk and either way you got to look at it for what it is and decide if you want to even bother getting a situation started that seems to be lacking foundation on jerk boys side. Thaqt is one sneaky guy and It`s not just guys it`s “people” any one who wants to be a jerk has the potential to be just that. Don`t comprimise your self because your all you got.

Can of Beans said, in December 25th, 2009 at 1:47 pm

intent to cheat, it’s unclear how far your relationship has moved along. My relationships move pretty fast and it’s clear in the begining what the situation is. If it’s a casual i’ll see you here and there maybe, that doesn’t last, your obviously not committed, i don;t know you or what you do. I immediatly see the person daily for weeks with like non stop puppy love and you know where the relationship stands, although admittedly that hasn’t lasted either but it lasts longer. casual stuff with busy people who aren’t passionatly in love, that is just an awkward arrangment. i feel zen like in my singledom now.

salsabrunette said, in December 26th, 2009 at 2:31 pm

He should have been open with you from the start and told you that his intention was to date lots and lots of girls, that way you would have had the choice to persue it or find somebody that wanted to be with you and only you.

I also think the fact that you ahve a full weekend away together does sound like it is a bit more than dating and he shouldnt have asked you to do something like that if he was then going to put up another advert. He has raised your expectations and made you think that he wants to be exclusive with you.

I would talk to him and say that you are not happy about it. That you thought that your realtionship had gone past casual dating and that if he had been more open with you then maybe you would also have dated a wider range of guys (see how he reacts to you doing the same, it always feels different when the shoe is on the other foot)

Then you decide if you are happy to step back and be his casual date while he makes his mind up or not, and unless he decides that he wants to be exclusive I would tell him to reconsider the weekend away, your into enjoying time with him, not getting hurt.

cynnie said, in December 29th, 2009 at 12:45 pm

old habits die hard. he must have realised that the ad thing brings forth good fortune so he is giving another try. You need to answer his second ad.

El Cyd 360 S-Type said, in January 1st, 2010 at 12:40 am

Dude, This DB Is Totally Setting You Up For A Major Letdown. He’s Keeping All His Doors Open So Just In Case You Start Threatening To Use The M Word, He Beats A Tasty Retreat In The Form Of A Minor (Gender Fender Bender). Stop Living With Him At His Parents House And Get Your Own Place To Crash! Be Strong! You’re A Survivor! Use Your NESS!!

NC Mom said, in January 4th, 2010 at 10:49 am

No, it’s not cheating. He is still looking and wanting to meet and date other women. Why don’t you place a personals ad as well, since you know this now? You two would have something to talk about. A guy I met through an ad constantly mentioned his dates with other girls, how cute they sounded in their messages, etc. I said “If you’re having such good luck, I think I’ll try it too.” So, I did. I met some great guys and had a lot of fun. And the guy I was dating “with no strings” — well, it made him very attentive towards me! And he and I are still friends after 10 years, although we only “dated” for that first year.

elliebear said, in January 7th, 2010 at 12:11 am

He’ not the one. He will always do this.

lizzomail said, in January 8th, 2010 at 8:44 am

You need to clarify just exactly what “dating” and “having a relationship” means to this guy. Two people can be dating, but have an agreement to date others as well. Unless you specify that “dating” means “dating exclusively”, he may think that putting up another personal ad is perfectly acceptable.

briacass said, in January 11th, 2010 at 5:40 am

Talk to him about the personal add, tell him you were a bit offended by it. If he looks at you like an idiot, tell him to not pretend lik he wasnt sending out signs, tell him you never want to be with him again. It s not really cheating but I would be offended in your case as well. It is okay to be upset

Hope i Helped
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