Found my hub has a personal ad?

Published in July 24th, 2009

Lola asked:

Last night, was on the Internet, before getting ready for Valentine 'Day lunch with my s hub. We 'the VE married for just over a year. I was watching the story of the day 's the place visited and seen a dating site, has taken over and has seen that has a personal ad on there for "encounters" intimate, with an announcement that the law is' living with someone 'and that someone is trying to get' the fun and love with and no longer wasting any time '. WTF? I have never had ANY REASON not trust him and we 'the VE has not ever been in the past few editions. I was in love with him from the day we met and thought that we had the perfect relationship. The pics on the site that I was 2 'chela VE taken him myself and came on 1 November, a night that we came together for drinks. I don 't know what to say and didn' t compare because the families that have been completely paved. WHAT do I do? I feel so upset and complained. I would 'the VE never could fathom that. No clue how long he 's had this and if he' s met anyone!

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wweman0786 said, in July 25th, 2009 at 10:28 pm

thar a tuff one. Try to do thing or ask him if he happy without him thininkg you knwon something up.

jk1967 said, in July 27th, 2009 at 6:01 pm

well u got 2 choices 1 counseling 2 lawyer

Always Right said, in July 30th, 2009 at 6:29 pm

Confront him with his belongings all over the front yard and locks that his key just won’t turn anymore. He is a cheating piece of crap, and like you said, you don’t know if he has already dropped it into a STD cesspool. Get yourself checked to be safe. Your husband is a loser and there is nothing you can possibly do to make you deserve this. If you stay with him, you will spend the rest of your days caressing your conscience and not trusting him. If your foundation doesn’t have the pillar of trust, everything else crumbles.

★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ said, in July 30th, 2009 at 7:25 pm

i’d put a key stroke on your computer – that can track everything he writes. see how important this site is – see if he is talking with people from there etc- see if he just did it for “kicks” to see how many people would write to him. If he goes there once a week or more – this is important to him – and its maybe not just a game – and maybe is meeting someone. ORRRR
ME – I would set up a fake name – that he would never know about – make it so it doesn’t sound like something you would make up – and write to him. be his “friend” for a while – see how far he is going to take it. Go online and find a pic of anybody and put it on there! and- i personally would go as far as setting up a meeting – AND meeting him there. would that be a shocker to him!!!! This is the rest of your life – and you don’t want to waste anymore of it on him if he is cheating.
but- thats just me : )

Jo said, in July 31st, 2009 at 6:59 pm

Yikes. Accept that all men subconsciencely want sex with lots of women to increase their evolutionary offspring.

ndnqt1966 said, in August 2nd, 2009 at 1:16 am

Oh he is so busted! Confront him immediately…He sure has balls! Well maybe not for long…..only been married just over a year and is looking to cheat….Damn!

littleluvkitty said, in August 4th, 2009 at 10:53 pm

heres what you do go online and answer the ad. right pretending you are someone else. down load a pic from the internet to use. then go online answer the ad and make plans to meat him somewhere. have him go first so that when you walk in he knows hes screwed. walk up to him poor his drink on his head tell him where is can go to remove your shoe from his @ss and move on. good luck

72RJSB said, in August 5th, 2009 at 2:53 am

Looks like you have a very deceitful and untrustworthy man! If I were you I’d confront him and see his reaction. Then get out of the relationship. Once a liar always a liar and if he is not being honest about that then what else might he be hiding.

mxmomma said, in August 6th, 2009 at 4:34 pm

I would print off the page and confront him with it. you shouldn’t have to live with the hurt of knowing his secrets.. I would give him and ultimatum.. either his net dates or you but he can’t have both. He will probably be so totally defensive but stick to your guns don’t let him sweet talk his way out or by saying it was a joke or something.

I am so sorry your valentine’s day turned out so crappy .. that is aweful!!

cathy w said, in August 9th, 2009 at 12:36 pm

I would confront him about it and see why he did it. maybe something going on in your marriage that hes not happy about.talking is always a good start. If you can she if he will go to counseling. good luck and i hope it works out for you.

Poppet said, in August 13th, 2009 at 12:21 am

This is what you do.

“Honey, I’d like to show you something that I’ve found.” Show him his profile. “I’d like you to explain this to me. Also, before you start, please know that I will be more angry if you lie than if you tell the truth.” Then listen to what he has to say. Be VERY observant of his word choices and body language. Don’t interrupt him and don’t give any indication that you are angry, sad, or hurt. After he was finished speaking tell him that you need to think about what he has said and leave the house. Go have a good cry somewhere private. (parks are good for this) Then start to consider what he had to say. Review your marriage and time together with a critical eye. Then decide an appropriate action.

Mwah said, in August 14th, 2009 at 3:39 am

Confront him! You need to kno because if he did meet someone and did anything with them and he brings something home to you. Trust me I went threw this myself.
Your young you can find someone better and someone who is honest to you. Life is to short to waste

trishia l said, in August 15th, 2009 at 3:18 pm

dont comfornt him with out proof have the page printed out and ask him about it if he denies it throw the pages in his face i used to catch my husband on the chatline for singles at first i left him and we got back together later i found out that he has a problem and he is extremly sexual active he finnaly stop doin it after i caught him one time i went on the same chat line and left him a message you could make your own personnal ad and send it to him that would be enough said and he would be so embarressed he might not ever touch the computer again

sweet said, in August 17th, 2009 at 3:18 pm

it’s called win-spy shareware, i downloaded it on my computer cause my husband had issues w/ porn . it shows everything emails, snap shots websites. works for me he doesn’t knows i have it but no more porn. you have to have a password to open it so it works for me i would try this first if it works then you will have all the info you need to confront him with.

Isadora said, in August 18th, 2009 at 2:43 pm

I’m so sorry.
First off, you should print out the ad as evidence before he deletes it or something.
Second, wait til he is relaxed after work and sit next to him and ask him very calmly if he has ever cheated on you. Wait for a response…be very calm and relaxed. If no, explain if you had evidence that said otherwise would he want to change his answer. If no, then put the evidence in his lap…and rip him a new one. Definately let it all out. This means he is a liar and can’t be trusted. Next step is up to you, you can leave or stay depending on the outcome of the confrontation.

S G said, in August 19th, 2009 at 10:13 pm

Give him more head.

eillem123 said, in August 20th, 2009 at 2:19 pm

I’d ask him about it – see what he says, then he either takes it off, works really hard at regaining your trust or you call a lawyer and get rid of him.

Julia said, in August 21st, 2009 at 8:10 pm

Sweetie, if you could hold yourself together to do some investigating here I would advise you to do that. I would probably get on that site anominously to see if he would meet you out somewhere and then you will know how far he would go to betray you on a physical level. I am sorry but as his wife I would need to know that. He is evidently up to no good and I would have to give him all the freedom in the world to hang himself to know who I am really married to. I know this will be very hard to do without going off on him and pointing out what you discovered but informing him now he will only cover everything up. You need some support here so if you have someone that you truly trust I would go to them and let them help you. I can only imagine how you must feel but there are things you need to know about your husband at this point in order to go on with him for the rest of your life. Maybe marriage counseling if you think you would want that. Take care and be strong.

Kat G said, in August 22nd, 2009 at 1:05 am

Even thought the dating site pooped up you went into it looking to see if your husband had an add. I think your gut has told you something was up. I find it odd that out of all the dating sites there are the one he was on happen to pop up. Never the less it makes no difference how you found out. If it was me I would save his profile to a disk. After that I would be stopping at the bank and withdrawing any funds. Then looking on line for cheap air fair as I would be looking to get away and un-stress myself.

Your husband is a cheater as you know. Even if he has not met anyone I would not let this slide. He is out looking for sex encounters and who knows what he is going to bring home and give to you. My thoughts are who cares why he did this. He would do it to who ever he was with. IT’S NOT YOU.. Please know that.

Since your only married a year I would cut my losses as what he has is a sickness and will not change. When you leave him a note after your gone sign it from your room mate.

I_Already_Know said, in August 23rd, 2009 at 5:05 pm

You should talk to him about it. Now, understand, according to society “All men are dogs!”. I do not know your husband so I cannot speak for him. Hopefully, he will be able to justify his reason for doing it.
I have put a personal on several dating sites, just to see what would happen. I was curious. I have chatted with several women from the sites. I never acted on any. Most were in another part of the country or another part of the world. Our conversations were more about my city and theirs.

J L said, in August 25th, 2009 at 7:22 pm

Place you own add on the site under another name.

Contact him, chat, and make a date.

He may just be trying to stroke his ego by seeing how many hits he gets on his add. If so – no biggy. If he meets you – he is a cheat. File divorce papers the next day and thank god you found out before you got some nasty STD from the idiot.

PeachPie said, in August 28th, 2009 at 5:21 am

I would make up a fake profile and catch his stupid cheatin ass. Make sure to get a fake picture, a cute attractive believable one, not like a supermodel or anything. Start to talk to him about things he likes for a week or so and then set up a “meeting”. LOL When you walk in he’ll be fucked! You’ll have all the proof you need. From there you head straight to the divorce lawyer.

orphan annie said, in August 28th, 2009 at 10:10 pm

I would ask him about it. I got the phone bill while married to my ex husband and it had abunch of 900 numbers on it. Well, of course he said he didn’t do it, but later I found some dating sites with his profile on them as well. Confront him and ask him about it. Most likely he’s a cheater.

~nicole~ said, in September 1st, 2009 at 8:03 am

I would have been out of there as soon as I saw it. You can go on pretending you never saw it. But what happens when he brings home a nice little STD for you?

Cassius said, in September 2nd, 2009 at 7:49 pm

hemi said, in September 4th, 2009 at 4:10 am

3 ways to go:
1– Ignore it and accept that he is a cheater…and will always be one

2– Talk about it with him..not argue, but talk….and see what is lacking in your young mariage..and for the rest of your marrige trust him…and verify he is being faithful all of the time (spying on his computer or hiring a PI from time to time)

3– Let him come home to an empty house with just the computer..with a reply from you to his personal ad…saying that he should update it to not living with anyone….

Best wishes…sorry you got a dud for a hubby..

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