Individuals have spent a lot of money in the search for love; others have found right on their doorstep. Why is it that some people spend their whole lives searching for something that others find easily?

I think that it all comes down to what your expectations are, some people set impossibly high standards for the one they are looking for, and therefore they will never find them. Others are more realistic and are prepared to accept people for who they are.

Usually those who have set very high standards that they expect for the recipient of their affections have a false sense of their own worth. They think that they are smarter, more handsome or wittier than they really are. They don’t see themselves as other people see them.

If you always look for faults in people you will never find the one that you are looking for, nobody is perfect, least of all you. Be realistic in your expectations of other people, better still, don’t have any expectations, take people for what they are.

When looking for love the old adage “opposites attract” does not hold water, you may be attracted to someone totally opposite of yourself but you can be sure that the attraction will eventually wear thin.

Friendship is an important ingredient when looking for love, you can love someone, but that love won’t last if you don’t like them. Your partner in life or your wife has to be someone who you can spend time with, someone whose company you enjoy.

Ask yourself, is your ideal of the perfect man or woman attainable, are your standards too high, is it possible for the person, or the ideal of a person, to exist. Everybody has flaws and idiosyncrasies, accept them, don’t try to change them, you will find that you will be a lot happier in the relationship.

If you follow the advice above you will be able to find that love that you have been looking for, you may even realize that the person you have been looking for lives right next door to you, or is the person at your supermarket who has always had a big smile for you when you approach the register.

In order to find love you need to be patient, understanding, able to compromise, caring, and above all else non-judgemental. With these qualities you are sure to find the person who will truly compliment you, or as Tom Cruise said complete you.

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