One of the main issues I contend with, when dealing with my students is their idea of not being attractive enough to attract women.

This insecurity comes in various shapes and sizes. For instance:

  • Some guys think they’re too old.
  • Some think they’re too fat.
  • Some men think they are too short.
  • Some think they’re too ugly.

These men feel as if they are in a weak position, when it comes to attracting the women they desire, because of these.

However, it is not true.

I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.

Myth #1 - Women are only attracted to good looking men.

Look around this world and notice the different types of men, who date beautiful women, you will find this myth is not true.

Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness.

What’s the difference?

Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.

Presentations of these types of features play a role in looking good.

Any man can be attractive when he controls his appearance.

Myth #2 - Women Think Like Men Do

It’s natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.

For instance - If you’ve ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it. But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.

Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You’re able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.

This is incorrect.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.

Myth #3 - Women Notice Our Insecurities

Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline, weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.

We see it, no matter what it is.

Since we see it very plainly, we merely assume everyone else can too. Nevertheless, many individuals are not observant at all, unless they search for and issue to analyze about you. If you have insecurities, as we all do most likely they wont even care, since we all focus so highly of our own.

Do you know that most women are not aware of your insecurities and only notice them when you call their attention to them? So forget about your insecurities rather than trying to diffuse or dismiss them by calling the attention of others as to why you may think you are ugly.

Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it.

It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.

Myth #4 - Good Looking Men Have It Made

Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women do not automatically flock to a good looking man.

Good looking guys have their own struggles with women. Sure, being physically attractive helps them initially, but in the long run, they have teh same issues other men have.

Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she’s around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.

If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.

However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure - she WILL become attracted to him eventually.

Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.

You need to learn how to interact with women, since you do not have to be a good looking man to make women feel good.

This equation has a second factor and that is of sexual attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This is when seduction comes into play.

When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don’t look like Brad Pitt, she’s going to begin to see you in a whole new light - despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.

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