Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Best Selling Author, writes… …

Here are some dating tips and insights to help you get back into the game, especially if you’re dating after divorce. In the last of our series on Dating Consciously, “

Appearance Aren’t Everything,” let’s talk about the all important external part of appearance. Check out the results from a dating survey. Choose the most important features of a partner

  • Personality 30%
  • Sense of Humor 14%
  • Smile 12%
  • Looks 11%
  • Eyes 10%
  • Hair 7%
  • Education 7%
  • Physique 5%
  • Career 3%
  • Popularity 0%

As you can see, Personality rated top, overwhelmingly!

What does it say about the dater and the datee? What’s clearly established here is that it’s not a physical attribute at all, but an internal one.

Appearance is often categorized as a person’s physical attractiveness. Personality, self-confidence, an engaging attitude, warmth and authenticity are the traits that win out over Physical Appearance. So many of us are hung up on physical appearance, we get stopped before we get started.

What are characteristics of personality? Confidence. The ability to relax and enjoy in a outgoing and engaging manner. What are inherent traits of self-confidence?

1. Being clear on an objective.

2. Feeling assured that what you want is within your reach.

3. Self-esteem.

4. Poise.

What I’m pointing to is the non-physical aspects of ‘Personality’. An engaging personality has little to do with physical appearance. Many people I know getting back into the dating game get stopped with the externals of the game.

Your internal dialog goes something like this … “I’m no longer a spring chicken, I can’t compete with the hotties, The singles scene seems so superficial.”

Feeling confident, being ready to shine, always having a ready, genuine smile, will make all the difference. You can meet Mr. or Ms. Right in the grocery store, at church, on a walk, anywhere. Don’t limit yourself by what others are saying.

From the perspective of a Law of Attraction Coach, the essence of what you emanate is attracted or drawn right back to you. If that’s so, (and it IS) doesn’t it makes sense to get dressed with a smile before you go out of the house? It becomes a matter of practicing the traits of self-confidence; being clear about what you want, the ability to have it, knowing your worthy of what you want, and being calmly expectant that the timing is all in perfect order.

“To be in the Dating Consciously mode, you need to ENERGETICALLY dress for success”.

To win the dating game, you want to remember it’s your choice. So choose it to be fun.

Why not write a little summary of an after-the-fact successful date. Write as though the date already happened and you’re really pleased with the outcome. If you don’t have any dating prospects, script a pleasant outcome from a trip to the library or coffee shop. You’re creating your entire life by your beliefs and your thoughts, so why not get creative and deliberate about it. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Your enjoyment of life is directly related to how you perceive every event, situation or outcome. It’s not always easy to see that our interpretation of an event is what makes it good or bad. Gain super power by taking on that it’s your job to feel joy and confidence. Nobody else has the power to make you feel bad or good, for that matter. It’s always an inside job.

Remember, dating is a game. Relationships are a game. Make sure your games are for fun and you’ll always have a great experience. And remember to enjoy the journey.

 

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