Balancing our beliefs and desires is an ever acting characteristic in a humans life, we strive do this all the time.

We all struggle as men with our faith and urges; however, we can learn how to fit these two qualities together, by learning new perspectives.

It is natural to strive to stand firm in what we believe and for most Christian men, staying within the boundaries of the church is essential for their experience of love.

These boundaries include sex and marriage.

I don’t judge this tenant. Some people choose to follow it. I believe this is just as valid as the people who choose not to follow it.

Ancient legends tell us that when we partake of sex with one another, a part of their soul lingers with ours and we carry that piece of soul around with us for the rest of our lives.

The doctrine to keep your virginity for your wife is a wise one, when you consider this in some respect.

This can present a challenge for men who strive to remain strong in their faith.

To enable yourself to continue attracting a woman, while fostering a relationship as you wait for marriage is achievable, however, you must take note of a few perspectives.

Sex is important after all, since marriage to someone sexually incompatible is a difficult union for anyone.

This advice is helpful for those men who face the emergence of blending faith and romance.

1. Clarify your beliefs

Our faith is meant to guide us through life. Because of this, it is very important to be clear on what it is you believe.

We all have free will, the ability to think and reason, this is God’s gift to us. We look at all our options while deciding which path we each take. Some of us take it all in and keep what teaching reverberates within our higher self, while others embrace all of their churches teachings.

You must refine and clarify your beliefs and then stick to them, no matter your choices.

2. Be aware that God has a plan for you.

Keep your faith that God has a plan for you and the woman you are meant to be with when the two of you are united.

Keep in mind, you have to do your part too, since there is only so much that he can do. You have free will and must take action to capture the opportunities presented to you.

That means we must be proactive in finding the right woman for us.

Going out to meet women, getting to know them and dating are not things that just happen unexpectedly. You have to make it happen. Your beliefs help you stay on the plan for your life.

3. Understand that virginity is not mysterious or essential.

You must understand that sex is a natural act, such as walking, talking and taking in air; it is something that we do. Sometimes the way some individuals consider virginity is confusing and unbalanced.

Gods intention is for man to be fruitful and multiply, this means sex. It is one of the greatest gifts from God; his intention is for us to have sex, this is why sex is pleasurable.

So to look at your virginity as something sacred is not helpful. Virginity is meant to be lost - the real challenge is finding the right person to lose it to!

Sex of course is an aspect of spirituality. It is one in which you find the person who makes you feel alive, loved and completed. This is distinct from the sexual act, since it vibrates within a higher level of your soul.

Striving to achieve this type of closeness before marriage is most helpful in determining whether your physical aspects are in tune with a woman.

Intimacy with women is nothing to be afraid of, hugging, touching and kissing are natural urges and reactions. Nevertheless, true intimacy comes for sharing your hopes and dreams with each other while staring deeply into each others eyes.

4. Women are real people with no need of a pedestal.

When you place too much importance on blending sex and faith, you may find yourself inflating the importance of a woman.

You may think of a woman as some delicate flower goddess that is treated special and treasured.

Keep in mind that in many ways men and women are alike. We all come from the same place. You should never put a woman on a pedestal simply because you find her sexually attractive. This is not the same as having respect for her.

Loving an ideal is easy, although it is difficult at times to love reality. Remember women too get cranky when hungry, awakens with morning breath and asks you to take out the garbage. This is reality.

We have to learn to love the reality of women, and not idealize them. Realize that sex is just one aspect to the females of our species. And that being human, we all share similar traits.

When we see girls as people, just like us, we are able to get a clearer picture of whether or not we are meant to be with them.

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